“I can’t live without you”, is this the higher display of love or emotional dependence? Is a love suffering a natural process? Search for answers to these and other questions in this article. Among various kinds of dependences traditionally allocate game, alcoholic, narcotic, tobacco, shopping. These dependences have more or less learnt to notice and diagnose, and the people subject to them, had an opportunity to recover.
However emotional dependence still is registered in this list only among psychologists as the people suffering from emotional dependence is the most part of psychologists’ clients.
What is the emotional dependence?
Emotional dependence is a dependence on relations from other person. Emotional dependence happens very difficultly to distinguish, as its presence often confuse to strong love feelings.
In a science the person, who cannot live without other person, is called as the child (or the invalid). However in eyes of bigger part of world feeling of one person, who cannot live without another, are called as a love.
I repeatedly heard phrases “If I do not love, I would not worry so much” and ‘I suffer, because I love”. Sufferings, impossibility to be yourself or be happy without another person are indissolubly linked to love.
Many people live in unsatisfactory, destructive relations, considering that everything is normal. Also they do not understand that everything can be in another way.
The healthy, harmonious person is capable to create relations with many other partners. It is caused by that the central motivation of the person is the internal requirement to reach rich, difficult and passionate relations with yourself, parents, contemporaries, community, animals, the nature, world around and an inner world.
The self-sufficient person is not the one who does not feel sincere experiences and requirement for formation of close relations with other people. This is the one, who does not collapse from them, who does not bring misfortune to other person.
Signs of emotional dependence
1. The happiness is possible only in the presence of relations and other person who loves or who is nearby.
2. The love, friendship is impossible without full dissolution in each other, without full return of a life in the order of other person.
3. Relations become destructive, are accompanied by strong jealousy, numerous conflicts, constant threat of rupture. But the present, definitive rupture does not happen.
4. In relations you feel bad, without relations it is impossible to live.
5. Absence of relations, object of love/attachment or thought on absence causes a severe pain, fear, depression, apathy, despair.
6. Relations cannot be broken off independently: “Until he will not leave me, we cannot break up”.
Take care of your relations and make each other happy. You should understand and respect your partner, but to have your own point of view.
It is almost impossible to dodge the cases when you face the how to get your ex back situation. The biggest mistake here is that people think too much about how to get your ex back, instead of putting this whole story in another way. This is not about how to get your ex back, really. It is about how to make it interesting again.
